Single mom by Choice

Do I Wish I Had Frozen My Eggs?

I feel at the same time, very cynical about companies paying their employees money to freeze their eggs so they can put off starting a family and thrilled that this technology is available to provide more opportunities for women. I was one of those women who after putting my career first, just couldn’t seem to…

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Break the Decision-Making Spiral

Decision-making is stressful—from the small, seemingly insignificant decisions to the big ones, such as do I want to have a baby alone, or am I ready to use an egg donor or adopt? As a Single Mom, when your child comes along, you are forced to make all parenting decisions alone, such as who to…

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Single, 42 and Infertile But I Still Gave Birth To My Baby

As a child, I was obsessed with babies. If anyone asked me if I wanted kids when I grew up, I would exuberantly respond that I wanted eleven babies (I know, right? Eleven??). I distinctly remember stalking a pregnant mother in my neighborhood, asking if I could care for her child once it was born.…

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How Being A Single Mom Makes You Better At Dating

Being a Single Mom can be lonely at times and make you yearn for a partner. To make matters worse dating as a Single Mom can feel like an uphill batter against an endless shortage of time, money and energy. My son is still young, and I can barely fathom dating. And, yet, I see…

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Teaching Love Through Imitation

When I proactively chose to become a Solo Mom, I knew parenting would become my spiritual practice. We know that children learn more from imitation than from what we actually tell them.

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My 2017 Promises to YOU!

This year, my hope is that you will learn everything I know about becoming a single mom by choice, fertility issues, and using a sperm donor and egg donor to conceive. But even more, I hope it inspires you to take whatever path to motherhood (or not) that feels right. As you may know, my…

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6 Reasons You Didn’t Even Realize That You Need A ‘Fertility Doula’

Singles and couples struggling with infertility need support too. If you’ve ever tried to get pregnant when anything other than good old fashioned sex is involved, you know it can be confusing and taxing. A fertility doula can help. Both singles and couples who need to use artificial insemination, IVF, or a sperm donor, egg…

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6 Archetypes for Choosing a Sperm Donor

Women ask me all the time, “How should I pick a sperm donor (or egg donor)?” For many it can be one of the most daunting parts of becoming a single mom by choice. After all, picking a donor to provide half of the genes of your child is very significant. Many women contemplate a…

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An Ode To The Exhausted Single Mom: 7 Reasons You’re a BadA$$

We all know, being a single mom is hard! There’s rarely a break and the weight of the world falls squarely on your shoulders. When I had my baby as a single mom by choice (meaning I used a sperm donor to proactively get pregnant alone), I got a ride home from the hospital from some friends,…

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