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Motherhood Reimagined: When Becoming A Mother Doesn't Go As Planned
At the age of 39, Sarah began to realize time was running out to have a baby. After grappling with what it meant to have a baby alone with a sperm donor, she eventually realized that she’d always wanted a baby more than anything, only to find out she was infertile. Thus, began a year of hope and despair in which she fought the diagnosis, refusing to move onto donor eggs as suggested by her doctor. She catapulted herself into a diligent regime of herbs, Qigong, meditation, acupuncture and more in a futile attempt to improve her egg quality. Instead she uncovered dormant self-doubt and self-hatred fueled by her body’s inability to conceive. She bravely faced into those emotions showing that embodied spiritual practice and awareness are powerful warriors. Eventually love won out as she surrendered her previous notions of what it meant to be a mother and embraced a path to motherhood that involved both egg and sperm donation. Throughout it all, Sarah processes many troubling and difficult emotions, turning heartache and disappointment into tools for self-improvement so she can step into motherhood grounded, aware and free from regret. Sarah’s is a story of personal triumph and unconditional love that shows what’s possible when we are willing to put down the version of motherhood we expected and embrace the unconventional.
Sarah’s honest and informative memoir examines the issues facing both single moms by choice and any woman facing fertility issues and third party reproduction. She offers a personal narrative that speaks for a generation of women who, like the author, thought she had time to have a baby well into her forties and a growing number of women who will not let the lack of a partner stand in the way of having a child. Sarah takes us on her journey in which she examines her choices and surrenders to a completely different vision of motherhood than she had ever imagined, showing us how love prevails.
Her book answers many questions such as: Why would someone decide to have a baby alone? How does one come to terms with not having a genetic link to her child? How can infertility be a means for personal growth and spiritual awakening?
Book Launch Party
Weds. Oct. 25th 7:30 pm
Pegasus Books Downtown Berkeley
What People Are Saying
- "In the end, life dashed every expectation I had about how I would become a mother." And yet Sarah Kowalski did become a mother - just not in the way she had imagined. In this powerful, timely, and important memoir, Kowalski reveals how difficult it is to become a mother in your 40s, and yet also how the journey has served as a beautiful and transformational process for her. Best of all, she helps anyone interested in becoming a parent who might be struggling with infertility, confused about reproductive options and technology, psychologically and emotionally distressed, and / or lost in the vast jungle of online information about IVF, adoption, sperm/ egg donation, and so on to navigate their way to motherhood. This book is so necessary. It fills a gap in the literature on modern parenthood by offering wisdom, insight, and practical advice that will help you realize your dreams -- one way or another.
--Mei Mei Fox, New York Times Best Selling Author and Contributor at Forbes
"Motherhood Reimagined is a courageous journey through familiar life lessons. Using her embodied spiritual practice, author Sarah Kowalski faces her demons with vulnerability, humility, humor and insight."--Elena Brower, Author, Art of Attention and Practice You
- "Brave pioneers come in all sizes, shapes, ages and genders. Make no mistake, Sarah Kowalski is one of them. In her courageous memoir she opens up new territory illuminating fresh possibilities for what it is to be an authentic dignified human being in the midst of probably the most profound life-changing event, becoming a mother, (in her case while being a single woman). She warmly, confidently and firmly draws the reader into the felt experience of all she faced, physically relationally, psychologically, financially and so on. Funny, inspiring, thought-provoking all at once. Sarah holds nothing back and opens up the chance for us to do the same in whatever we are facing in our own lives. A book for anyone living in our time and place."
--James Flaherty, MCC, Founder of New Ventures West, co-founder of Integral Leadership LLC, and the author of Coaching: Evoking Excellence in Others
- "Get ready for an emotional and psychological journey. Motherhood Reimagined is a fascinating and intimate look inside the world of becoming a modern day mother. An honest look at the emotional labor & physical challenges that arise on one woman's path to motherhood. Kowalski is relentless in her pursuit of becoming a mother and grants us passage through her very own thick jungle of neuroses and tangles of self doubt while she bravely sharpens a machete of insight and truth to carve out her own path. A heroic and emotional journey that pulls you in and won't let you go until both the author and reader have found complete surrender."
-- Madison Young, Author of Daddy: A Memoir and The Ultimate Guide to Sex Through Pregnancy and Motherhood
- "In Motherhood Reimagined, Sarah Kowalski chronicles her heartbreaking, yet ultimately inspiring journey from work-obsessed attorney to want-to-be solo mom. This compelling story of yearning rises above the rest as Kowalski grippingly recounts the fear, regret, and anger that accompanied her race against infertility. The book is a must-read for any women who hears the ticking of her biological clock. The number of women choosing to parent alone is increasing by the day. In her gripping memoir, Motherhood Reimagined, Sarah Kowalski reveals the disappointment and taxing medical interventions that can surround this decision. Every woman considering becoming a solo mom by choice should read this powerful book."
--Marika Lindholm CEO and founder of ESME.com (Empowering Solo Moms Everywhere)
- “This very readable story of the author’s journey to single motherhood by choice is a must-read for anyone contemplating becoming an SMC. It feels like a good friend is letting you join her on the trip as she shares her ups and downs, disappointments and celebrations. Informative, emotionally moving, and hard to put down.”
-- Jane Mattes, psychotherapist and Founder Single Mothers by Choice (SMC). Author, Single Mothers by Choice.
- "In the years that I've been communicating with Choice Moms, there are two things that stand out as true: 1) We don't realize how difficult it might be to conceive, which is exhausting to discover in our late 30s and 40s; 2) We underestimate our ability as strong-minded women to "get it done," whatever it takes. Sarah is admirably able in this memoir to openly capture both the vulnerability and the strength of her story of becoming a mother — a journey that never goes according to plan, and that teaches us more about ourselves than we can ever detail on our To Do lists."
--Mikki Morrissette, founder ChoiceMoms.org, author Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Woman's Guide
- "In Motherhood Reimagined Sarah Kowalski has accomplished what most memoir writers can never do. She has written two memoirs seamlessly woven together. One is an amazingly informative story about infertility and what one woman did to get pregnant. You will laugh and cry at Sarah's ability to capture the ups and downs of this saga. But she has also written a narrative about her spiritual struggles that is as interesting as her journey toward motherhood. This is one of those rare books that is not only replete with important information but it might even slip you onto your own path toward enlightenment.”
--Roy M Carlisle, Senior Editorial Consultant, The Crossroad Publishing Company
- “From the moment we meet Sarah Kowalski, a successful corporate attorney ignoring her biological clock, through her passionate quest to overcome infertility, to her early days of solo motherhood, one thing is for sure: nothing will go as planned. But Kowalski proceeds with determination, dissolving every physical and emotional barrier that dares stand in her way. This book is a must-read for anyone charting an unconventional path toward parenthood.”
-–Cheryl Dumesnil, Love Song for Baby X: How I Stayed (Almost) Sane on the Rocky Road to Parenthood.